Dates ? Mates or check mate ?

Dates ? Mates or check mate ? 


I cannot believe it is new year in 2 days time, coming to year 2018 . I know for the fact that I have been trying hard to look for the one which I always do. I know for the fact as well that many single guys in the jack’d app are looking for one thing, the only one thing that make them feel secure. It could be anything, from sex to friendship. I had been in it for years, since coming over to this little city. Living in this tiny island, full of single millennials isn’t easy or shall I say, it looked harder than it seemed to just get a date you can hold on to. Just the other day, I got to know two guys from the popular social dating app while browsing for the right one for something more substantial, rather than just meet up date and never call again .

 The first guy , Mr. BC . He is nice , cute, decent well mannered and well spoken US educated fine looking guy , in his early 30s , we met up in my place after a few conversations in the app. We started chatting by exchanging common interest, he likes to play board game and quiet night in with some wine and so do I.The chat kept flowing and soon, we exchanged number and connected for more to know each other. There is a saying that, all the good ones are taken and guess what, it is true. He is attached with a partner for 2 years and will be leaving abroad soon back to his home in USA. He was here for a week just to visit his grandma and would be back to his life in USA. There it goes again, so close yet so far. I thought he would be the one reason for me to delete the social app for good but apparently not. I have to say it again, all the good ones are no longer single, they are either snapped or married. On losing my hope, I thought to myself, no a bad idea to know him as a friend. Although it was just a short meet up , I did learn a few things from him. I asked him what keeps them together , he said common interest. Both of them like to solve puzzle or mystery. Besides, on their anniversary, they participated a mystery game together to solve it and they absolutely love it. That actually opened up my eyes to a different world.

Attraction draws two guys together but what keeps two people together , is common ground interest.

 It is one of the things that will never ever grow old or out of it. Unlike, physical which over time it could wear off. This scenario has helped to open up my heart to see things beyond beauty and not everything is about physical attraction.

 The 2nd guy , Mr Ben. I have not met up with him but after a few chats on the app, we exchanged lINE contact ( another app similar to what’s app except that you do not have to disclose your number ). We spoke over the phone via LINE app chat and he sounded genuine in telling me himself and found him very sincere. He was not afraid in telling me his background and even his medical conditions to me. Imagine that you have not met somebody and you have the guts to tell someone who is stranger to you bout your personal background including illnesses. For once, I thought he was different and really appreciate for his honesty and giving me the privilege to listen to him. Based on that , I gave him credit for fear not in telling me all about him and decided to make the first move to ask him out. Initially , we made up our mind to meet up on Saturday night for dinner but as the day comes, he started becoming quiet. I have a bad gut feeling telling me that he might not want to meet after all and it turned out to be true. He texted me in the evening that day which we were supposed to meet saying that he needed to help his mum to do something. Fair enough, since we were not destined to meet or perhaps his fear took over him so I respect his decision. Emotions took over me and I deleted him off from my list and guess he will never be able to hear from me again.

Sad to say it was check mate for him and game over.