Relationship?

What keeps the relationship in gay couple going?

I was strolling the chat-room the other day and I encountered a guy, who is in his 30s and engaged to a partner for 10 years. Yes, they have been together for 10 years, doing things together, eating together and fooling around with another together, sometimes with a third party. Yes, I believed the word is threesome. Then it crossed my mind that, is there a monogamy in homo relationship? Even if it does not exist in the dictionary of two guys living happily ever after, does it really matter? The guy whom I mentioned was online looking for someone for threesome, of course with his partner’s knowledge. Doesn’t it feel like cheating sleeping with another guy intentionally? But wait, cheating is the word reserved for those who sleep without consent from the other partner. In his defence, he obtained full consent from his partner and both of them indulge the threesome sex together. This leads me to think, well, it is not that impossible to have a family with children in homo relationship although it comes with strict rules and regulations. The person who authorised the adoption make it hard on purpose for gay couples in looking for adoption as they want to ensure that the child has a proper good healthy environment to grow. But then again, comes back to the question, how many of us are ready to take full responsibility looking after the children welfare. Without children, can sex over take the key that maintain the relationship like in heterosexual relationships do? If yes, how long?

A few days after writing this piece, I bumped into one of my old friends online. His name is Mr. A, he is one of the hot pies in his 40s and he is attached to a guy for nearly 7 years and still counting. I then asked what he thinks about homo- relationship. So the conversation started to flow and he eventually spilled out the beans that he wasn’t actually ready or prepared to commit to anyone although he is now. The reason is simply freedom. He wants to do things on his own , free from permission and also from putting his needs before his partner. His motto passion in life is Freeway, feel free to express his ways of life without soliciting anyone, including his family. However, both of them are living together under one roof pending on commitment. Doesn’t it mean that when two guys stay together in the same room for quite a long while signifies something more than just hook up, in his case, 7 years of same sex with the same person. He denies being in a relationship and still think they are both under trial period for relationship. So it means staying together without commitment.


Do you actually live in a relationship based on mutual understanding prior to commitment or based on love commitment?